“There is usually a Marxist moment in every relationship, the moment when it becomes clear that love is reciprocated. The way it is resolved depends on the balance between self-love and self-hatred. If self-hatred gains the upper hand, then the one who has received love will declare that the beloved (on some excuse or other) is not good enough for them (not good enough by virtue of associating with no-goods). But if self-love gains the upper hand, both partners may accept that seeing their love reciprocated is not proof of how low the beloved is, but of how lovable they have themselves turned out to be.”
― Essays In Love
― Essays In Love
“I'm not wise at all. I told you, I know nothing. I know books, and I know how to string words together--it doesn't mean I know how to speak about the tings that matter most to me."
"But you're doing it now--in a way."
"Yes, in a way--that's how I always say things: in a way.”
― Call Me by Your Name
"But you're doing it now--in a way."
"Yes, in a way--that's how I always say things: in a way.”
― Call Me by Your Name
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