“You learn to live with it, with them. Because they do stay with you, even if they’re not living, breathing people any more.
It’s not the same crushing grief you felt at first, the kind that swamps you, and makes you want to cry in the wrong places, and get irrationally angry with all the idiots who are still alive when the person you love is dead.
It’s just something you learn to accommodate.
Like adapting around a hole. I don’t know. It’s like you become … a doughnut instead of a bun”
― After You
It’s not the same crushing grief you felt at first, the kind that swamps you, and makes you want to cry in the wrong places, and get irrationally angry with all the idiots who are still alive when the person you love is dead.
It’s just something you learn to accommodate.
Like adapting around a hole. I don’t know. It’s like you become … a doughnut instead of a bun”
― After You
“No journey out of grief was straightforward. There would be good days and bad days.”
― After You
― After You
“Life starts all over again when it gets crisp in the fall.”
― The Great Gatsby
― The Great Gatsby
“You don't have to let that one thing be the thing that defines you.”
― After You
― After You
“You may not control life's circumstances, but getting to be the author of your life means getting to control what you do with them.”
― Being Mortal: Medicine and What Matters in the End
― Being Mortal: Medicine and What Matters in the End
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