Re Becca

“Sometimes I think the only real division into two is between people who divide everything into two and those who don't.”
― Gloria Steinem, My Life on the Road

“One of the best guides to how to be self-loving is to give ourselves the love we are often dreaming about receiving from others. There was a time when I felt lousy about my over-forty body, saw myself as too fat, too this, or too that. Yet I fantasized about finding a lover who would give me the gift of being loved as I am. It is silly, isn't it, that I would dream of someone else offering to me the acceptance and affirmation I was withholding from myself. This was a moment when the maxim "You can never love anybody if you are unable to love yourself" made clear sense. And I add, "Do not expect to receive the love from someone else you do not give yourself.”
― Bell Hooks, All About Love: New Visions

“Who am I to tell her who to love? My job just to love her good and true myself. P. 237”
― Alice Walker, The Color Purple