Stefanie

“For married lovers, the marriage is bread and butter and the affair is icing on the cake. Affairs between married and single people have an imbalance of power because the affair is the one-and-only for the unmarried person, who has to wait in line for time and attention that isn’t already allocated to the spouse and kids. Ralph”
― Shirley P. Glass, Not “Just Friends”: Rebuilding Trust and Recovering Your Sanity After Infidelity

“For some people, commitment comes with a mindfulness of the need for exclusivity, about which they have no second thoughts. They seem to have a red stoplight built into their senses. For others, commitment is conditional and seems to come with a yellow warning light that can be heeded or ignored. They split hairs and decide that their commitment permits them to do this but does not allow them to do that. Their conditional commitment may also be dependent on the state of their marriage. Still others have turned a forbidden transgression into a reasonable option and have given themselves a green light to go full speed ahead.”
― Shirley P. Glass, Not “Just Friends”: Rebuilding Trust and Recovering Your Sanity After Infidelity

“ASINGLE MOMENT can change us forever. After you learn that you’ve been betrayed, you think in terms of the time before and the time after. The private calamity of discovering that your partner has become someone you don’t recognize and has lied to you as if you were an enemy blows your secure world to pieces. You no longer trust your eyes to see, your brain to comprehend, or your heart to feel what is true.”
― Shirley P. Glass, Not “Just Friends”: Rebuilding Trust and Recovering Your Sanity After Infidelity