Ana Rotaras

“because more important than how fast you’re going, is where you’re headed.”
― Stephen R. Covey, First Things First

“Love is ruthless; it doesn’t feel sorry for anyone, but it does have compassion. Fear is full of pity; it feels sorry for everyone. You feel sorry for me when you don’t respect me, when you don’t think I am strong enough to make it. On the other hand, love respects. I love you; I know you can make it. I know you are strong enough, intelligent enough, good enough that you can make your own choices. I don’t have to make your choices for you. You can make it. If you fall, I can give you my hand, I can help you to stand up. I can say, “You can do it, go ahead.” That is compassion, but it is not the same as feeling sorry. Compassion comes from respect and from love; feeling sorry comes from a lack of respect and from fear.”
― Miguel Ruiz, The Mastery of Love: A Practical Guide to the Art of Relationship

“paying attention to your words as well as the words of others. Do that and I think you’ll find that much of what you and others say just isn’t necessary, and that every point could be made better and clearer with fewer words rather than more.”
― Bill McGowan, Pitch Perfect: How to Say It Right the First Time, Every Time

“In short, here are the four steps from Schwartz to help you get a handle on this: Step 1: Relabel: Identify deceptive brain messages and the uncomfortable sensations; call them what they really are. Step 2: Reframe: Change your perception of the importance of the deceptive brain messages; say why these thoughts, urges, and impulses keep bothering you. (“It's not me; it's just my brain!”) Step 3: Refocus: Direct your attention toward an activity or mental process that is wholesome and productive—even while the false and deceptive urges, thoughts, impulses, and sensations are still present and bothering you. Step 4: Revalue: Clearly see the thoughts, urges, and impulses for what they are—sensations caused by deceptive brain messages that are not true and that have little to no value.”
― Joe Vitale, At Zero: The Final Secrets to "Zero Limits" The Quest for Miracles Through Ho'oponopono