“I heard it was easier up there,” I said. “Oregon, Washington, Canada.” “Closed,” he said. “You’ve got to sneak into Oregon if you get in at all. Even harder to sneak into Washington. People get shot every day trying to sneak into Canada.
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“the Nines’ need to avoid conflict at all costs. Nines fear that expressing their preferences or asserting their agenda will put important relationships at risk and upset the calm surface of their inner sea. What if their priorities and wants compete with the agenda of someone they care about and this difference leads to conflict and relational disconnection? What if asserting their own opinions, needs and desires creates disharmony between them and the people they love? Nines so value feeling comfortable and tranquil, maintaining the status quo, and preserving connections with others that they set aside their own viewpoints and aspirations to merge with those of others. This doesn’t seem like a big deal for Peacemakers, who often grew up feeling like neither their presence nor priorities matter much to others.”
― The Road Back to You: An Enneagram Journey to Self-Discovery
― The Road Back to You: An Enneagram Journey to Self-Discovery
“(Like Nines, Fives are able to see both sides to things, but because they’re not worried about causing conflict they’ll shoot straight up with you.)”
― The Road Back to You: An Enneagram Journey to Self-Discovery
― The Road Back to You: An Enneagram Journey to Self-Discovery
“our sun is long and straight, a line of burning gold fencing our lands from the skylands.”
― Lake of the Long Sun
― Lake of the Long Sun
“To cope with having countless things to do and not knowing where to start, to avoid the backlog of unanswered questions and postponed decisions crying out for their attention, to keep their anger out of view, and to buoy a low self-esteem, Nines have unhealthy coping strategies. They will often turn to food, sex, drinking, exercise, shopping, the reassuring comfort of habits and routines, performing mindless busywork, or vegging out on the couch and watching TV to numb out and ignore their feelings, wants and desires. What Nines fail to realize is that numbing out is a bogus form of relaxation, a cheap imitation of the genuine peace for which they long. But Nines should take heart: they are more courageous and resourceful than they know. Remember, on the Enneagram any number’s blight is merely a distortion of that number’s blessing. All of us have work to do. So, as Aslan the lion cries at the end of the Narnia Chronicles, “Further up and further in!”
― The Road Back to You: An Enneagram Journey to Self-Discovery
― The Road Back to You: An Enneagram Journey to Self-Discovery
“The least controlling number on the Enneagram, Nines allow life to unfold naturally, and they offer others the freedom and space to grow in their own time and way. They are quick to love, slow to judge and rarely ask to be recognized for the effort they put into caring for other people. They’re free and easy, down-to-earth, practical people who are eminently likable. Honestly, I can’t say enough good about Nines who are doing or have done their work. But Nines are also no strangers to the principle of inertia.”
― The Road Back to You: An Enneagram Journey to Self-Discovery
― The Road Back to You: An Enneagram Journey to Self-Discovery
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