Ted Friedli

“When I criticize a system, they think I criticize them—and that is of course because they accept the system and identify themselves with it.”
― Thomas Merton

“You cannot shame or belittle people into changing. This means we can’t use self-hate to lose weight, we can’t shame ourselves into becoming better parents and we can’t belittle ourselves or our families into becoming who we need them to be. Putting people on the “loser board” doesn’t work. Shame corrodes the very part of us that believes we are capable of change.”
― Brené Brown, I Thought It Was Just Me: Women Reclaiming Power and Courage in a Culture of Shame

“You are afraid of surrender because you don’t want to lose control. But you never had control; all you had was anxiety.”
― Elizabeth Gilbert, Eat, Pray, Love

“People who can't communicate think everything is an argument.”
― Shannon L. Alder