Lindsay

“Denial can be confusing because it resembles sleeping. We’re not really aware we’re doing it until we’re done doing it. Forcing ourselves—or anyone else—to face the truth usually doesn’t help. We won’t face the facts until we are ready. Neither, it seems, will anyone else. We may admit to the truth for a moment, but we won’t let ourselves know what we know until we feel safe, secure, and prepared enough to deal and cope with it.”
― Melody Beattie, The Language of Letting Go: Daily Meditations on Codependency

“You cannot control bad things that happen to you any more than you can control the weather. It’s less about the things that happen and more about how you react to them.”
― Robert J. Crane, The Girl in the Box: Books 1-3

“If we weren’t trying to control whether a person liked us or his or her reaction to us, what would we do differently? If we weren’t trying to control the course of a relationship, what would we do differently? If we weren’t trying to control another person’s behavior, how would we think, feel, speak, and behave differently than we do now? What haven’t we been letting ourselves do while hoping that self-denial would influence a particular situation or person? Are there some things we’ve been doing that we’d stop? How would we treat ourselves differently? Would we let ourselves enjoy life more and feel better right now? Would we stop feeling so bad? Would we treat ourselves better? If we weren’t trying to control, what would we do differently? Make a list, then do it.”
― Melody Beattie, The Language of Letting Go: Daily Meditations on Codependency

“It’s an internet meme,” I said, matter-of-factly. “I’d tell you to Google it, but you’ve only got about five minutes to live and you’re going to spend every one of those fighting for your life.”
― Robert J. Crane, Power