Brenda

“When someone has spent their years angry at the world, death just feels like one final cruel blow.”
― Mikki Brammer, The Collected Regrets of Clover

“My clients were already in the process of dying and often had a certain clarity about things. Knowing that death was impending seemed to allow them to deal in absolutes—as if they had one last piece to fit into the puzzle of their life and they knew exactly where it went. There was a freedom in having no future to speculate about. But for most people, death was an unknown—an inevitable but nebulous event that could be minutes or decades away. And from my experience, the ones who preferred not to think about it while living tended to have the most regrets while dying.”
― Mikki Brammer, The Collected Regrets of Clover

“It’s so easy to see your parental figure through that lens alone, to think that their existence has always revolved around yours. But before they were parents, they were simply human beings trying to navigate life as best they could, dealing with their own disappointments, chasing after their own dreams. And yet we often expect them to be infallible. It”
― Mikki Brammer, The Collected Regrets of Clover

“I mostly regret putting the needs of others ahead of my own. But as a woman, that’s what I was taught to do. You were always someone's wife, or mother, or daughter before you were yourself.”
― Mikki Brammer, The Collected Regrets of Clover