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“a survivor was pressured into dropping their complaint, then it became “their choice” to walk away. If administrators dismissed key evidence during an investigation, then it was proof the survivor “didn’t build a strong enough case.” If the complex bureaucracies around Title IX led a survivor to miss an email or use the wrong form or contact the wrong person, then “they went about things the wrong way.”
― Nicole Bedera, On the Wrong Side: How Universities Protect Perpetrators and Betray Survivors of Sexual Violence

“The notion of intrinsic motivation or self-generated drive is held as the ideal, but ADHD is characterized by motivation difficulties. There is nothing wrong with extrinsic motivation, using accountability to others and rewards to help you get engaged in a task, which you can think of as outsourcing accountability (which is not the same as outsourcing responsibility).”
― J. Russell Ramsay, The Adult ADHD Tool Kit: Using CBT to Facilitate Coping Inside and Out

“In situations like this”
― Gary Smith, Radical Compassion: Finding Christ in the Heart of the Poor

“This meant that victim and perpetrator were both given an equal right to things like the school counseling center or extensions on academic assignments. They both had the right to move dorms, safety plan, or file a no-contact directive to keep the other party from speaking to or about them. They both had the right to know about the other’s academic schedule or get a refund on tuition for classes they failed and have those low grades removed from their transcript. When perpetrators asked for privileges originally created for survivors, they got them. Western University isn’t alone in taking this approach. According to a NASPA report,5 48 percent of schools provide “identical” support to survivors in the “complainant” role and perpetrators in the “respondent” role.6”
― Nicole Bedera, On the Wrong Side: How Universities Protect Perpetrators and Betray Survivors of Sexual Violence