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“When you let go of revenge and constantly mulling over the hurt someone has caused you, you can commit to your own path and happiness. Part of things coming around is you committing to being happy with or without people and their approval. So mark your path. Make it happen. Be a stellar person, and do what you need to do to carry on. Life will gift you because you have acted with integrity. And you won’t waste anymore of your invaluable time and energy on a past you can’t change anyway.”
― Your Pocket Therapist: Quick Hacks for Dealing with Toxic People While Empowering Yourself
― Your Pocket Therapist: Quick Hacks for Dealing with Toxic People While Empowering Yourself
“In folktales a vampire couldn’t enter your home unless you invited him in. Without your consent the beast could never cross your threshold. Well, what do you think your computer is? Your phone? You live inside those devices so those devices are your homes. But at least a home, a physical building, has a door you can shut, windows you can latch. Technology has no locked doors.”
― The Changeling
― The Changeling
“Love yourself as if you were your own child.”
― Adult Survivors of Toxic Family Members: Tools to Maintain Boundaries, Deal with Criticism, and Heal from Shame After Ties Have Been Cut
― Adult Survivors of Toxic Family Members: Tools to Maintain Boundaries, Deal with Criticism, and Heal from Shame After Ties Have Been Cut
“Core needs for children include, but are not limited to, receiving adequate levels of time, love, and attention, along with meeting their needs to feel heard, validated, and understood. When these needs aren’t met, there is no way to rewind to the beginning of life in a way that enables any outside love relationship to heal or meet your core needs. Research naively suggests we seek other relationships outside our family to supply our basic needs of love, acceptance, and emotional support. Although other love relationships are fundamental, necessary, and important to our overall well-being, I believe it is not only inappropriate for us to put this type of pressure on others to fill the needs our family neglected, but this request is also impossible to satisfy. It is unwise and emotionally dangerous to assume anyone could meet the core needs that can be met only by the family we were born into. The unfortunate message from this type of information is that other people can heal our wounds and meet our core needs when, ultimately, we need to learn to heal our own wounds and meet our own needs.”
― Adult Survivors of Toxic Family Members: Tools to Maintain Boundaries, Deal with Criticism, and Heal from Shame After Ties Have Been Cut
― Adult Survivors of Toxic Family Members: Tools to Maintain Boundaries, Deal with Criticism, and Heal from Shame After Ties Have Been Cut
“Because emotional abuse is impossible to prove, we often have an incredibly difficult time describing or putting into words what exactly has happened to us that is so bad. We know things were not or are not normal, but we don’t know why. Emotional abuse moves quickly. Just as we’re about to put our finger on it, it seems to slip away. Without a clear set of concrete, provable terms, many of us question if our abuse or neglect was real. Did it really happen? Or are we just making it up? We reason that if we were truly abused, our abuse should be easy to explain.”
― But It's Your Family . . .: Cutting Ties with Toxic Family Members and Loving Yourself in the Aftermath
― But It's Your Family . . .: Cutting Ties with Toxic Family Members and Loving Yourself in the Aftermath
Biracial/Mixed Race Literature
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