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“Within neo-colonial white supremacist capitalist patriarchy, the black male body continues to be perceived as an embodiment of bestial, violent, penis-as-weapon hypermasculine assertion. Psychohistories of white racism have always called attention to the tension between the construction of black male body as danger and the underlying eroticization that always then imagines that body as a location for transgressive pleasure. It has taken contemporary commodification of blackness to teach the world that this perceived threat, whether real or symbolic, can be diffused by a process of fetishization that renders the black masculine ‘menace’ feminine through a process of patriarchal objectification.”
― We Real Cool: Black Men and Masculinity
― We Real Cool: Black Men and Masculinity
“A doctor once told me I feel too much. I said, so does god. that’s why you can see the grand canyon from the moon.”
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“Pain is important: how we evade it, how we succumb to it, how we deal with it, how we transcend it.”
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“The erotic has often been misnamed by men and used against women. It has been made into the confused, the trivial, the psychotic, the plasticized sensation. For this reason, we have often turned away from the exploration and consideration of the erotic as a source of power and information, confusing it with its opposite, the pornographic. But pornography is a direct denial of the power of the erotic, for it represents the suppression of true feeling. Pornography emphasizes sensation without feeling.
The erotic is a measure between the beginnings of our sense of self and the chaos of our strongest feelings. It is an internal sense of satisfaction to which, once we have experienced it, we know we can aspire.”
― Uses of the Erotic: The Erotic as Power
The erotic is a measure between the beginnings of our sense of self and the chaos of our strongest feelings. It is an internal sense of satisfaction to which, once we have experienced it, we know we can aspire.”
― Uses of the Erotic: The Erotic as Power
“You used to say. "Desire doubled is love and love doubled is madness."
Madness doubled is marriage
I added
when the caustic was cool, not intending to produce
a golden rule.”
― The Beauty of the Husband: A Fictional Essay in 29 Tangos
Madness doubled is marriage
I added
when the caustic was cool, not intending to produce
a golden rule.”
― The Beauty of the Husband: A Fictional Essay in 29 Tangos
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