Guma

“How can we ever stop looking? How can we ever turn away?”
― Mary Oliver, Upstream: Selected Essays

“It's cold today, but in a spring way, and I love you.”
― Vladimir Nabokov, Letters to Vera

“What accounts for this hesitation? Why do we love committers but act like browsers? I think it’s because of three fears. First, we have a fear of regret: we worry that if we commit to something, we will later regret having not committed to something else. Second, we have a fear of association: we think that if we commit to something, we will be vulnerable to the chaos that that commitment brings to our identity, our reputation, and our sense of control. Third, we have a fear of missing out: we feel that if we commit to something, the responsibilities that come with it will prevent us from being everything, everywhere, to everyone.”
― Pete Davis, Dedicated: The Case for Commitment in an Age of Infinite Browsing

“That’s what commitments are—alternatives to self-obsession. Commitments free us to dedicate ourselves to something bigger than ourselves—to something beyond our shells. The French philosopher Jacques Maritain said that the meaning of life is “self-mastery for the purpose of self-giving.” This is the challenge of growing up—to turn the corner from self-mastery to self-giving. What is the moment at that corner—between inwardness, growth, and concerted self-development and outwardness, public interestedness, and other-centeredness? Commitment.”
― Pete Davis, Dedicated: The Case for Commitment in an Age of Infinite Browsing