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“No lecture, no moral judgment coming down on his head, no negotiation or diplomacy needed. And no coercion. You don’t force a thing. You just prevent further action, and listen until he can think. He’ll get there. It takes time, but you’re spared fruitless lectures and worry. You’ve got good children. They know how to get along. It just takes some time to peel the emotional tension away. When it’s gone, they’ll know what to do.”
― Patty Wipfler, Listen: Five Simple Tools to Meet Your Everyday Parenting Challenges

“This simple inpouring of focused warmth and attention signals the limbic system that we’re not alone. As Daniel J. Siegel, MD, puts it, you’ll each begin to “feel felt.” This turns out to be a very strong aid to human awareness, and to our ability to bounce back from hard times.”
― Patty Wipfler, Listen: Five Simple Tools to Meet Your Everyday Parenting Challenges

“There’s no need for harshness. Instead of yelling, issuing an order, or scolding your child for bad behavior, simply put yourself between your child and the nutty thing he’s doing.”
― Patty Wipfler, Listen: Five Simple Tools to Meet Your Everyday Parenting Challenges

“You’ll want to set limits as a way of connecting, not as punishment or payback, and not as proof that you are in charge.”
― Patty Wipfler, Listen: Five Simple Tools to Meet Your Everyday Parenting Challenges