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“Women have been driven mad, "gaslighted," for centuries by the refutation of our experience and our instincts in a culture which validates only male experience. The truth of our bodies and our minds has been mystified to us. We therefore have a primary obligation to each other: not to undermine each others' sense of reality for the sake of expediency; not to gaslight each other.

Women have often felt insane when cleaving to the truth of our experience. Our future depends on the sanity of each of us, and we have a profound stake, beyond the personal, in the project of describing our reality as candidly and fully as we can to each other.”
― Adrienne Rich, On Lies, Secrets, and Silence. Selected Prose 1966-1978

“Dominant people and groups used power to:
• declare what styles of music will and will not be used
• determine what historical religious leaders looked like racially
• decide which teachings to emphasize, and which to downplay
• determine what religious education literature to use
• decide which pictures or other art goes on the walls
• declare who the spiritual heroes are and why
• decide which aspects of history to remember and how to interpret the past
• decide who is mature in their faith, and who is not
• determine how much race and ethnicity will be talked about
• declare that race is not important and will not be discussed
• declare that the race of those in leadership does not matter
• look at and treat the non-majority groups with paternalism
• force others to assimilate or leave the congregation
• determine the culture through which the faith will be interpreted
• determine the culture through which faith will be practiced
• make others feel powerless
• remain ignorant about other cultures
• determine if change will happen and the pace of change (almost always, slowly)
• make people feel small, unimportant, like outsiders
• deny having power”
― Michael O. Emerson, People of the Dream: Multiracial Congregations in the United States

“When understood in all its rich complexity, religion does not simply provide secure foundations but destabilizes every type of religiosity by subverting the oppositional logic of eitherjor.”
― Mark C. Taylor, After God

“If there is meaning in life at all, then there must be meaning in suffering.”
― Viktor Frankl