Kate

“Seek out adventures that aren’t in either of your areas of expertise. You don’t want to attempt a sport where one of you has a natural advantage or to play a game that one of you has played for years. To build intimacy, you want to both be novices so that you feel inexperienced and curious together. You both feel similarly uncomfortable. You’re both going to learn something new. You’re going to need and rely on each other. A challenging hike, a visit to a haunted house, spelunking, roller skating, or (my favorite) an escape room. Intimacy builds as you expose yourselves to each other in a vulnerable moment. Once Radhi and I went to a paint room where they had easels, canvases, brushes, and paints. We were given overalls to wear, and they let us go crazy. It was new and liberating to spray paint wherever we wanted and to create without worrying about the end product.”
― Jay Shetty, 8 Rules of Love: How to Find It, Keep It, and Let It Go

“Research shows that play is the mental state in which we learn best, and that play is essential for our mental health. When you attempt a new and challenging activity together in a space where success doesn’t matter, you can both let go and learn.”
― Jay Shetty, 8 Rules of Love: How to Find It, Keep It, and Let It Go

“and where there was a yawning chasm between them. She felt physically attracted to him and they were on the same wavelength. Their dates were enjoyable and they”
― Author Maria Avgitidis, Ask a Matchmaker: Matchmaker Maria's No-Nonsense Guide to Finding Love

“This is the melting-pot, the seat of a great human experiment. Beautiful words, full of noble, idealistic sentiment. Actually we are a vulgar, pushing mob whose passions are easily mobilized by demagogues, newspaper men, religious quacks, agitators and such like. To call this a society of free peoples is blasphemous”
― Henry Miller, The Air-Conditioned Nightmare