“Healthy striving is self-focused: "How can I improve?" Perfectionism is other-focused: "What will they think?”
― The Gifts of Imperfection
― The Gifts of Imperfection
“To love someone fiercely, to believe in something with your whole heart, to celebrate a fleeting moment in time, to fully engage in a life that doesn’t come with guarantees – these are risks that involve vulnerability and often pain. But, I’m learning that recognizing and leaning into the discomfort of vulnerability teaches us how to live with joy, gratitude and grace.”
― The Gifts of Imperfection
― The Gifts of Imperfection
“Understanding the difference between healthy striving and perfectionism is critical to laying down the shield and picking up your life. Research shows that perfectionism hampers success. In fact, it's often the path to depression, anxiety, addiction, and life paralysis.”
― The Gifts of Imperfection
― The Gifts of Imperfection
“Perfectionism is a self destructive and addictive belief system that fuels this primary thought: If I look perfect, and do everything perfectly, I can avoid or minimize the painful feelings of shame, judgment, and blame.”
― The Gifts of Imperfection
― The Gifts of Imperfection
“Staying vulnerable is a risk we have to take if we want to experience connection.”
― The Gifts of Imperfection
― The Gifts of Imperfection
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