“The Bible is clear about two principles: (1) We always need to forgive, but (2) we don’t always achieve reconciliation. Forgiveness is something that we do in our hearts; we release someone from a debt that they owe us. We write off the person’s debt, and she no longer owes us. We no longer condemn her. She is clean. Only one party is needed for forgiveness: me. The person who owes me a debt does not have to ask my forgiveness. It is a work of grace in my heart.”
― Boundaries: When To Say Yes, How to Say No
― Boundaries: When To Say Yes, How to Say No
“We can't manipulate people into swallowing our boundaries by sugarcoating them. Boundaries are a "litmus test" for the quality of our relationships. Those people in our lives who can respect our boundaries will love our wills, our opinions, our separateness. Those who can't respect our boundaries are telling us that they don't love our nos. They only love our yeses, our compliance. "I only like it when you do what I want.”
― Boundaries: When to Say Yes, How to Say No to Take Control of Your Life
― Boundaries: When to Say Yes, How to Say No to Take Control of Your Life
“Forgiveness gives me boundaries because it unhooks me from the hurtful person, and then I can act responsibly, wisely. If I am not forgiving them, I am still in a destructive relationship with them.”
― Boundaries: When To Say Yes, How to Say No
― Boundaries: When To Say Yes, How to Say No
“True intimacy is only built around the freedom to disagree.”
― Boundaries: When to Say Yes, How to Say No to Take Control of Your Life
― Boundaries: When to Say Yes, How to Say No to Take Control of Your Life
“When we begin to set boundaries with people we love, a really hard thing happens: they hurt. They may feel a hole where you used to plug up their aloneness, their disorganization, or their financial irresponsibility. Whatever it is, they will feel a loss. If you love them, this will be difficult for you to watch. But, when you are dealing with someone who is hurting, remember that your boundaries are both necessary for you and helpful for them. If you have been enabling them to be irresponsible, your limit setting may nudge them toward responsibility.”
― Boundaries: When To Say Yes, How to Say No
― Boundaries: When To Say Yes, How to Say No
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