Rodrigo Maroni

“We come to ourselves by giving up the self. The psychologist Arthur Aron and colleagues, including his wife, Elaine Aron, help bring this peculiar truth to life with “self-expansion theory.” Aron argues that people are motivated, down to their core, by a wish to become more. One achieves this self-expansion most consistently and dramatically by forming a new attachment with another person, whereby “the resources, perspectives, and identities of a close other are experienced, to some extent, as one’s own.” Two people do more than get to know each other or come to love each other. They absorb each other.”
― Joshua Wolf Shenk, Powers of Two: How Relationships Drive Creativity