Alex
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“Do I look like someone who has something to do here on earth?' —That's what I'd like to answer the busybodies who inquire into my activities.”
― The Trouble With Being Born
― The Trouble With Being Born
“To indoctrinate boys into the rules of patriarchy, we force them to feel pain and to deny their feelings.”
― The Will to Change: Men, Masculinity, and Love
― The Will to Change: Men, Masculinity, and Love
“When people come to me saying they want to kill themselves, I tell them, “What’s your rush? You can kill yourself any time you like. So calm down. Suicide is a positive act.” And they do calm down.”
― The Trouble With Being Born
― The Trouble With Being Born
“Is it possible that existence is our exile and nothingness our home?”
― Tears and Saints
― Tears and Saints
“Learning to wear a mask (that word already embedded in the term “masculinity”) is the first lesson in patriarchal masculinity that a boy learns. He learns that his core feelings cannot be expressed if they do not conform to the acceptable behaviors sexism defines as male. Asked to give up the true self in order to realize the patriarchal ideal, boys learn self-betrayal early and are rewarded for these acts of soul murder.”
― The Will to Change: Men, Masculinity, and Love
― The Will to Change: Men, Masculinity, and Love
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