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“It’s not that people want to get hurt again. It’s that they want to master a situation in which they felt helpless as children. Freud called this “repetition compulsion.” Maybe this time, the unconscious imagines, I can go back and heal that wound from long ago by engaging with somebody familiar—but new. The only problem is, by choosing familiar partners, people guarantee the opposite result: they reopen the wounds and feel even more inadequate and unlovable.”
― Lori Gottlieb, Maybe You Should Talk to Someone: A Therapist, Her Therapist, and Our Lives Revealed

“You can’t be sad when you’re laughing. Mostly.”
― T.J. Klune, Under the Whispering Door

“Some would call this gaslighting, others would call it gaslighting—it’s gaslighting.”
― Matthew Perry, Friends, Lovers, and the Big Terrible Thing

“Cognitive dissonance, psychologists call it, this ability to hold two contradictory ideas or beliefs at one time.”
― Jennifer McGaha, Flat Broke with Two Goats