Maxine Wanzer

“Threes’ issues with feelings become really clear when you see them at work. They live for setting a goal, killing it, setting another goal, killing it, setting the next goal, killing it. This is where Threes get their energy, but it costs them. Imagine a Three is working”
― Ian Morgan Cron, The Road Back to You: An Enneagram Journey to Self-Discovery

“on an important project at work when their spouse or a friend calls to say they’re feeling angry or upset with them about something. The Three might have feelings about the situation as well, but having to deal with feelings threatens their ability to complete their project on schedule. So they disconnect in order to stay focused on work. It’s as if they say, I’m going to slip this emotion into my “Feelings to Deal with Later” file and come back to it when I’m finished with this task. How often do you think Threes go back to deal with the feeling? Rarely. Once that project is done they’re on to the next one. By midlife, what do you think a Three’s “Feelings to Deal with Later” file looks like? If it hasn’t already burst, it’s definitely overflowing. A Three’s ability to postpone”
― Ian Morgan Cron, The Road Back to You: An Enneagram Journey to Self-Discovery

“Jimmy had been told from a young age that fear and failing and trying and wanting and openness and kindness and sincerity made him weak. And because he had believed it, he’d learned to suppress all of those things. And when he saw those traits in others, he hated them because he hated himself.”
― Taylor Jenkins Reid, Atmosphere

“one may just as well have the courage and the curiosity to stay in the battle until one’s eventual and inevitable demise. Anything less than a fight for endurance is cowardly. Anything less than a fight for endurance is a refusal of the great covenant of life.”
― Elizabeth Gilbert, The Signature of All Things