Hilkka Mlunga

“Self-esteem cannot be reclaimed while perfectionism prevails. Self-esteem is in many ways the opposite of perfectionism.”
― Pete Walker, The Tao of Fully Feeling: Harvesting Forgiveness out of Blame

“Perfectionism also prevents us from letting in the love of others, no matter how abundant and genuine it is. When we are preoccupied with our deficiencies, we are often untouched by the nurturance others offer us. How tragic that so many of us are convinced we only deserve to be loved when we are happy or excelling.”
― Pete Walker, The Tao of Fully Feeling: Harvesting Forgiveness out of Blame

“I have been down many blind alleys in my attempts to come to terms with my emotions. I’ve repressed them, swallowed them, drowned them in drink, ascended above them in clouds of hemp, starved them out, interred them with food, transcended them in meditation, outrun them, outsmarted them with rationalization, exorcised them, handed them over to higher beings, transmuted them into pretty lights, and even briefly felt them before purging them in dramatic catharses that promised to render them finally extinct.”
― Pete Walker, The Tao of Fully Feeling: Harvesting Forgiveness out of Blame

“When we do not attend to our feelings, they accumulate inside us and create a mounting anxiety that we commonly dismiss as stress.”
― Pete Walker, The Tao of Fully Feeling: Harvesting Forgiveness out of Blame