Melissa

“There is an old saying that man only dares use his words for three purposes, to "heal, bless or prosper." What man says of others will be said of him, and what he wishes for another, he is wishing for himself.”
― Florence Scovel Shinn, The Game of Life and How to Play It

“if you run away your problems will run after you. Be undisturbed by a situation, and it will fall away of its own weight.”
― Florence Scovel Shinn, Wisdom of Florence Scovel Shinn

“An abuser doesn’t change because he feels guilty or gets sober or finds God. He doesn’t change after seeing the fear in his children’s eyes or feeling them drift away from him. It doesn’t suddenly dawn on him that his partner deserves better treatment. Because of his self-focus, combined with the many rewards he gets from controlling you, an abuser changes only when he has to, so the most important element in creating a context for change in an abuser is placing him in a situation where he has no other choice. Otherwise, it is highly unlikely that he will ever change his behavior.”
― Lundy Bancroft, Why Does He Do That? Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men

“Besides knowing all about the world, Mr. Right is also an expert on your life and how you should live it. He has the answers to your conflicts at work, how you should spend your time, and how you should raise your children. He is especially knowledgeable about your faults, and he likes to inventory what is wrong with you, as if tearing you down were the way to improve you.”
― Lundy Bancroft, Why Does He Do That? Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men