Gail

“You may start to blame yourself because they gaslight you and tell you there is something wrong with you, and it feels a tiny bit plausible that maybe there is.”
― Ramani Durvasula, It's Not You: Identifying and Healing from Narcissistic People

“Irritable mood is often a presenting characteristic of depression, and irritability is a quality observed in many narcissistic people. While we know that narcissism and depression are associated,[14] it is not uncommon for the depression observed in vulnerable narcissism to be so pronounced that the therapist misses the narcissistic patterns, so even as the depression improves, the narcissistic patterns mean ongoing victimhood, irritability, and apathy.”
― Ramani Durvasula, It's Not You: Identifying and Healing from Narcissistic People

“If you’re dealing with a narcissistic family member, you may be having the same fights repeatedly but also feeling the confusion you had as a small child.”
― Ramani Durvasula, It's Not You: Identifying and Healing from Narcissistic People

“Her superpower is finding joy in small moments: a hike with her dog, a pretty sunset, a new plant flowering, a show to binge watch. She has found purpose and meaning in the things she can control, and finds that healing, acceptance, and grief are a daily calibration.”
― Ramani Durvasula, It's Not You: Identifying and Healing from Narcissistic People