Sonja

“First of all, I didn’t miss the red flags. I looked at them and thought, yeah that’s sexy”
― Sheena Patel, I'm a Fan

“Men have all this power and this is the world they have created, where everyone experiences only slivers of snatched joy. There is no space for expansive and evolving creativity, only insecurity and homogeny are fostered where straight men uphold one another through a homoerotic bond, or are complicit through silence. No matter how much some say they respect women, each man, even the ‘good ones’, benefit from women’s low expectations of them as control is exerted via a climate of instability, fear and violence.”
― Sheena Patel, I'm a Fan: A Novel

“Women are beautiful, alluring but terrifying forces and the way to deal with terrifying forces is to break them. ... He cannot bear a woman to have control over him and sees our sexuality as a threat, set out purposefully to destroy him which he must evade at all costs. In his failure to experience and take responsibility for his own sexuality, he seeks to nuke the woman yet simultaneously casts himself as the victim so the woman he is destroying still takes care of him as she is brought down. You collaborate in your own destruction.”
― Sheena Patel, I'm a Fan

“The validation a relationship bestows upon a woman's personhood still exists and has to be internally fought off if a union hasn't been achieved. The world is built for couples. Even unhappy ones.”
― Sheena Patel, I'm a Fan