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“Very often in a conflict, we believe the problem is the other person or group. We think it is all their fault and that if they would just stop doing what they are doing or being the way they are, we would have peace and happiness. So we may be motivated by the desire to destroy the other side. We may wish they didn’t exist. But looking deeply, we know that we are not the only ones who have suffered—they have also suffered. When we take time to calm ourselves down and look deeply into the situation, we can see that we are co-responsible, that we have co-created the conflict by our way of thinking, acting, or speaking, either individually or as a group or nation.”
― Thich Nhat Hanh, How to Fight

“There are some things he doesn't want to know about himself, and others he doesn't want anybody else to know. Which makes him like the rest of us. ...
There are moments in the lives of others that excite both our disgust and our shame, the fear of what we ourselves might do. ...
I venture to say that everyone on this jury, and everyone in this room, has done things that they're ashamed of, and told lies that they regret.”
― Richard North Patterson, Silent Witness