“For [erotically intelligent couples], love is a vessel that contains both security and adventure, and commitment offers one of the great luxuries of life: time. Marriage is not the end of romance, it is the beginning. They know that they have years in which to deepen their connection, to experiment, to regress, and even to fail. They see their relationship as something alive and ongoing, not a fait accompli. It’s a story that they are writing together, one with many chapters, and neither partner knows how it will end. There’s always a place they haven’t gone yet, always something about the other still to be discovered.”
― Mating in Captivity: Reconciling the Erotic and the Domestic
― Mating in Captivity: Reconciling the Erotic and the Domestic
“To be vulnerable, to be raw, to virtually expose your guts, I like doing that.”
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“You are where you need to be. Just take a deep breath.”
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“Normal is not something to aspire to, it's something to get away from.”
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“Beginnings are always ripe with possibilities, for they hold the promise of completion. Through love we imagine a new way of being. You see me as I’ve never seen myself. You airbrush my imperfections, and I like what you see. With you, and through you, I will become that which I long to be. I will become whole. Being chosen by the one you chose is one of the glories of falling in love. It generates a feeling of intense personal importance. I matter. You confirm my significance.”
― Mating in Captivity: Reconciling the Erotic and the Domestic
― Mating in Captivity: Reconciling the Erotic and the Domestic
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