Hala Sobbahi

“Why do you hate the idea of being with yourself so much that ‘the time you spend with yourself is now considered as loneliness

Why we fear loneliness. The fear of loneliness was injected into our minds since we were kids. We have learned that the kid who eats alone, sits alone, and has no friends is pathetic. In every book or movie, the kid who is eating alone, and has no friend is always featured as a weak character who needs to be saved.

It’s not pathetic to be alone. I realized that we don’t hate being alone. We hate to believe that we are left behind.

Being alone is a part of life. But being lonely means viewing yourself from the lens of sympathy and misery. When you look at yourself through the lens of loneliness, you feel insecure and left out.

Being alone doesn’t mean you are lonely. Being alone means YOU ARE WITH YOURSELF.

Stop romanticizing your life , one day someone will come to save you, rescue you, or rather fall in love with you. The problem with this is that you CHOOSE to believe that YOU ARE NOT ENOUGH to change your life all by yourself. You rely your hope on someone who doesn’t exist.

After college, you don’t make friends. You just network. You just try to be nice to people so you are not left behind (mostly).

We don’t want people to think that no one chose us so what do we do? We start becoming like an ideal version of whom everyone loves. We start saying YES to things that we hate. But step by step, as we become like everyone else, we go far away from who we truly are.

Loneliness is not when you don’t have people around. Loneliness occurs when you cannot find yourself inside you. The moment you feel the loss of your real self, that’s when loneliness makes a home inside you.

“There are some days when you miss yourself more than you have ever missed anyone else.

Solitude is my home , Loneliness was my cage.

Imagine Yourself as a computer and see how you have opened different tabs of your personality for each person you meet. New person, new tab. Perhaps, that's the reason your real personality has crashed.”
― Renuka Gavrani

“فالقلوب التي تدنيها أوجاع الكآبة بعضها من بعض لا تفرِّقها بهجة الأفراح وبهرجتها.
فرابطة الحزن أقوى في النفوس من روابط الغبطة والسرور. والحب الذي تغسله العيون
بدموعها يظل طاهرًا وجميلًا وخالدًا.”
― جبران خليل جبران, The Broken Wings

“من يصبر على الضيم ولا يتمرد على الظلم يكون حليف البطل على الحق وشريك السفاحين بقتل الأبرياء.”
― جبران خليل جبران

“ويل لأمة تكثر فيها المذاهب والطوائف وتخلو من الدين ، ويل لأمة تلبس مما لاتنسج ، وتأكل مما لاتزرع ، وتشرب مما لاتعصر ، ويل لأمة تحسب المستبد بطلا ، وترى الفاتح المذل رحيما ً، ويل لأمة لاترفع صوتها إلا إذا مشت بجنازة ، ولا تفخر إلا بالخراب ولا تثور إلا وعنقها بين السيف والنطع ..
ويلٌ لأمة سائسها ثعلب، و فيلسوفها مشعوذ، و فنها فن الترقيع و التقليد. ويلٌ لأمة تستقبل حاكمها بالتطبيل و تودعة بالصَّفير، لتستقبل آخر بالتطبيل و التزمير. ويلُ لأمة حكماؤها خرس من وقر السنين، و رجالها الأشداء لا يزالون في أقمطة السرير. ويلٌ لأمة مقسمة إلى أجزاء، و كل جزءي يحسب نفسه فيها أمة.”
― جبران خليل جبران