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“So the intelligent way of working with emotions is to try to relate with their basic substance. The basic “isness” quality of the emotions, the fundamental nature of the emotions, is just energy. And if one is able to relate with the energy, then the energies have no conflict with you. They become a natural process.”
― Pema Chödrön, How to Meditate: A Practical Guide to Making Friends with Your Mind

“We turn our emotions into frozen objects and invest them with truth, and as a result they have so much power over us.”
― Pema Chödrön, How to Meditate: A Practical Guide to Making Friends with Your Mind

“People who have been wronged by an emotionally immature person may start to think they’re at fault if they continue to feel hurt by what the person did. Emotionally immature people expect you to take them off the hook immediately. If it feels better to blame you for not forgiving them fast enough, that’s what they’ll do.”
― Lindsay C. Gibson, Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents: How to Heal from Distant, Rejecting, or Self-Involved Parents

“One day in session, Rebecca revealed a fundamental error in her thinking when she commented, “But there’s nothing wrong with wanting her to feel better.” “Yes, there is!” I found myself exclaiming. This belief was at the heart of Rebecca’s self-sacrificing role with her mother.”
― Lindsay C. Gibson, Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents: How to Heal from Distant, Rejecting, or Self-Involved Parents