Kenzie

“Lectures, scolding, and punishment do not help—in fact, they create even more fear. Fear must be calmed through connection and nurturing before we address specific behaviors.”
― Karyn Purvis, The Connected Parent: Real-Life Strategies for Building Trust and Attachment

“You can not lead a child to a place of healing if you do not know the way yourself.”
― Karyn Purvis

“Any time a child demands something or asks for it disrespectfully (this includes screaming at you), that request must be denied. Period. For example, let’s say your son comes running and belligerently shouts at you, “Give me money for the ice-cream truck!” Don’t get distracted by his urgency. Calmly say to him, “If you want something, you need to ask with respect. If you ask without respect, the answer will always be no.”
― Karyn Purvis, The Connected Parent: Real-Life Strategies for Building Trust and Attachment

“Misbehavior is the expression of an unmet need. •​If a child needs nurture and I give him structure, I harm his ability to trust me. If a child needs structure and I give him nurture, I harm his ability to grow. Nurture and structure must be used hand in hand.”
― Karyn Purvis, The Connected Parent: Real-Life Strategies for Building Trust and Attachment