Harvey

“Men are not raised to be intimate, they're raised to be competitive performers...”
― Terrence Real, How Can I Get Through to You?: Closing the Intimacy Gap Between Men and Women

“The paradox for boys is that in order to be worthy of connection they must prove themselves invulnerable, button down warriors in the world's emotional market place.”
― Terrence Real, How Can I Get Through to You?: Closing the Intimacy Gap Between Men and Women

“I rely on images of violence, which bring the shock of pain, to penetrate the barriers people erect and defend, not simple defenses; the phony facades people live behind. Blocking their perceptions from coming in, and blocking their feelings from coming put. There are two way I try to shatter those facades, or at least make a hole where something can get in, to let the trapped feelings out--one way is violence, pain. The other is eroticism.”
― Jim Morrison, The Collected Works of Jim Morrison

“Traditional socialization teaches young boys to filter their sense of self-worth through performance.”
― Terrence Real, How Can I Get Through to You?: Closing the Intimacy Gap Between Men and Women