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"When you make a request of your spouse, you are affirming his or her worth and abilities. You are in essence indicating that she has something or can do something that is meaningful and worthwhile to you. However, when you make demands, you have become not a lover but a tyrant.... A request introduces the element of choice. Your mate may choose to respond to your request or deny it, because love is always a choice."