Status Updates From Heikle Gespräche

Stories create our feelings, and our feelings drive our actions. Control your stories, and you control your crucial conversations. By separating observable facts from your internal interpretations, you shift from a reactive state (driven by adrenaline and assumptions) to a regulated, curious state ready for constructive dialogue.

Suspend judgment and think outside the box.

To prevent arguments, discover or build more beneficial and mutual purposes.

When the other person misinterprets your intent—or believes you are attacking them when you aren't—use a Don't/Do Statement. Address what you don't intend (fixes the misunderstanding). Confirm what you do intend (re-anchors your real goal).
Ex: "I don't want you to think I'm unhappy with your performance overall. I do want to make sure we find a way to streamline this specific project together."

Respect is like air. If you take it away, it’s all people can think about.