Status Updates From Le armi della persuasione

Self image and self perception is essential to sustained long-term commitment

To influence a child’s behaviour, use a reason that will initially produce the desired behaviour and will at the same time allow a child to take personal responsibility for that behaviour.

When people feel they have free, will they’re more willing to make a choice aligned with what you want

We should never heavily bribe or threaten our children to do the things we want them truly to believe in. Such precious will probably produce temporary compliance. If we want children to continue a behaviour, we must somehow get them to accept inner responsibility for the behaviour.

We accept inner responsibility for behaviour when we think we have chosen to perform it in the absence of strong outside pressure. A large reward is one such external pressure. It may get us to perform a certain action, But it won’t get us to accept in a responsibility for the act like a smaller reward will (we will not feel committed to it)

People must believe in the struggle; the struggle has to be worth the end result

Treat them mean keep them keen: would follow the principal that going through pain to obtain something makes it seem more worthy

Persons who go through a great deal of trouble or pain to attain something, tend to value it more highly than those who attain it with minimal effort or struggle

The more effort that goes into a commitment, the greater it’s ability to influence the attitudes of the person who made it

The more public a stand, the more reluctant we will be to change it

Whenever one takes a stand that is visible to others, there arises a drive to maintain that stand in order to look like a consistent person

Public commitments tend to be lasting commitments