Status Updates From The Examined Life

“My experience is that closure is an extraordinarily compelling fantasy of mourning. It is the fiction that we can love, lose, suffer and then do something to permanently end our sorrow. We want to believe we can reach closure because grief can surprise and disorder us — even years after our loss.”

“They suffer more because they’re stuck on the idea of closure.”

“They suffer more because they’re stuck both expect to make progress, to move through certain stages of grief. And when they don’t, they feel that there is something wrong with them.”