Status Updates From Sisterland

I had the troubling thought that maybe I'd married him because he didn't entirely believe in something about myself that I hated; that maybe he'd married me because he wasn't worried about, wasn't deterred by, what he didn't entirely believe in; and that both of us had mistaken our marriage for consensus. But compatibility and agreement, it struck me suddenly, were not the same.

I never understood why it was my father who joined my mother in St. Louis rather than my mother moving to Omaha; perhaps this decision reflected the more invested party in the relationship.