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Commitment Level 3

Commitment to Spend Your Future Together

You and your partner agree to work together, honestly communicating feelings, looking at your own blocks to intimacy, and learning to understand one another in order to create that potential lasting partnership.

You and your partner agree that your relationship is special and worth nurturing.

You and your partner agree that your relationship has the potential to be a lasting partnership.

Commitment Level 2

Commitment to Work Towards a Partnership

You and your partner agree that you are each other’s only sexual partners (‘sex’ meaning everything from kissing to intercourse—whatever level you are participating in)

You and your partner agree that this is your one and only intimate relationship, and commit to putting your time and energy into sharing with one another and no one else.

Commitment Level 1

Commitment to Be Sexually and Emotionally Monogamous

Getting married before you have created a strong, mature, loving relationship is simply irresponsible, even more so if you decide to have children right away.

IT’S NOT FALLING IN LOVE OR MAKING A COMMITMENT THAT EVENTUALLY CAUSES US SO MUCH PAIN—ITS MAKING A COMMITMENT TO THE WRONG PERSON.

YOU AND YOUR PARTNER NEED THREE INGREDIENTS TO MAKE YOUR RELATIONSHIP WORK:

1. CHEMISTRY
2. COMPATIBILITY
3. COMMITMENT

I did not choose my partner in order to be rebellious.
I did not choose my partner only as a reaction to a previous partner.
My partner is available.

I do not care more about my partner than he does about me.
My partner does not care more about me than I do about him.
I am not in love with my partner’s potential.
I am not on a Rescue Mission.
I do not have my partner on a pedestal as a role model.
I am not infatuated with my partner for external reasons.
I have more than just partial compatibility with my partner.

I’m asking enough questions.
I’m not making premature compromises.
I’m not giving in to Lust Blindness. I’m not giving in to material seduction.
I’m not putting commitment before compatibility.
I’m not ignoring warning signs of potential problems.