Status Updates From Anxiously Attached: Becomin...

"This means along with noticing all the ways in which you have been hurt, it’s time to start noticing all the ways in which the universe is offering opportunities for you to grow."

"If we’re in a relationship where our partner shuts us down anytime we challenge them or express a need, this person will never have the chance to meet our whole self. In healthy relationships, people allow each other to make requests and set limits, and are then open to hearing how that response affects the other person."

"As humans, our most fundamental, moment-to-moment question is 'Are you with me?' When the answer appears to be 'No' over and over again, we reach a limit. It can help us understand the validity of this response to realize that under every burst of anger is an experience of pain and fear."

"A big part of this is just being warmly witnessed and understood, but it is also important that there is safety if there has been fear, acceptance if there has been shame, comfort if there has been pain, and togetherness if there has been abandonment. These are called reparative or disconfirming experiences, and literally change the felt sense of the implicit memories that hold Little Me’s traumas."

"These Protectors gradually shift their focus to providing care and advice that is centered on what is happening in the here and now rather than guarding against a repeat of past pain. Instead of 'You shouldn’t let anyone see your tears,' they may say, 'Your tears are valuable. Is this the person you can safely share them with?'"

"If you are in love with someone who doesn’t love you back the way you need and loving them more only results in you completely losing yourself, the most profound lesson lies in letting go and realizing that love alone is not enough. So many of us find ourselves in relationships that don’t provide a safe haven in which to heal. Instead, they only re-create a destructive cycle of emotional pain."

I wasn't expecting so much spiritual energy stuff in this book.

Uh...hm.
"Let’s first take a look at how energy actually works. Quantum theory shows us that everything in the universe is made of energy, including our thoughts and feelings, which have their own electromagnetic charge. This means that our thoughts alone (both our conscious thoughts and our subconscious core patterns) have the power to 'magnetically attract' situations that fit their energetic imprint."