Status Updates From كيف تجد الحب

"الأطفال غير قادرين علي الاحساس بالفرق بين الكارثة وليلة من الاستياء العميق وانما العابر الذي يشعر به شخص سريع الغضب. يندمج الاثنان في بعضهما ويخلقا ارتباكا"

If things are a bit bad, it's probably because we're doing it right.

in order to help us make our peace with the only thing that is actually on offer: a radically imperfect but genuine love for another flawed person and a necessarily troubled but still valuable shared life.

The real skill is not always to strive to make better choices; it's to know how to make our peace with our necessarily bad choices. We keep on supposing that our lives would turn out well if only we could somehow make an ideal right decision. But Kierkegaard is firmly opposed to this naive error. We should with cheer accept that we never had ideal options in the first place.

We have to be at peace with the prospect of many years of solitude in order to have any chance of forming a good relationship, or we'll love no longer being single rather more than we love the partner who spared us being so.