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That you think creatively and with cultural sensitivity (just as he must do) in shaping the style and setting the tone of your interaction with men.

14.That in all your relation ships with men(not just in marriage)you seek the guid ance of the Holy Spirit in applying the Biblical vision of manhood and womanhood; that you develop a style and demeanor that does justice to the unique role God has given to man to feel responsible for gracious leadership in relation to women-a leader ship which involves elements of protection and provision and a pattern of initiative.

13.you develop a wartime mentality and life style;that you never forget that life is short, that billions of people hang in the balance of Heaven and Hell every day,that the love of money is spiritual suicide, that the goals of upward mobility (cars,houses,vacations,hobbies)are a poor and dangerous substitute for the goals of living for Christ with all your might and maximizing your joy in ministry to people's needs.

No chapter has all the joys. Finite life is a series of trade-offs, Finding God's will, and living for the glory of Christ to the full in every chapter is what makes it a success, not whether it reads like somebody else's chapter or whether it has in it what only another chapter will bring.

12. That you step back and (with your husband, if you are married) plan the various forms of your life's ministry in chapters.Chapters are divided by various things age, strength, singleness, marriage, employment, chil dren at home, children in college, grandchildren, retire ment, etc.

9. That, if you are married, you creatively and intelli gently and sincerely support the leadership of your hus band as deeply as obedience to Christ will allow; that you encourage him in his God appointed role as head; that you influence him spiritually primarily through your fear less tranquillity and holiness and prayer.

8. That, if you are single, you exploit your singleness to the full in devotion to God (the way Jesus and Paul and Mary Slessor and Amy Carmichael did) and not be paralyzed by the desire to be married.

6. That you be women who have a deep grasp of the sovereign grace of God which undergirds all these spiritual processes; and that you be deep thinkers about the doc trines of grace, and even deeper lovers of these things.

5. That you be women of prayer, so that the Word of God will be opened to you, and so the power of faith and holiness will descend upon you, that your spiritual influence may increase at home and at church and in the world.

4. That you be women of the Book, who love and study Bo and obey the Bible in every area of its teaching. That meditation on Biblical truth be the source of hope and be faith. That you continue to faith grow in understanding grow through all the chapters of thro your life, never thinking that your study and growth are only for others.

The spiritual aimlessness and weakness and lethargy and loss of nerve among men is the major issue, not the upsurge of interest in women's min istries.

If I were to put my finger on one devastating sin today it would not be the so-called women's movement, but the lack of spiritual leadership by men at home and in the church Satan has achieved an amazing tactical victory by dissemi nating the notion that the summons for male leadership is born of pride and fallenness, when in fact pride is precisely what prevents spiritual leadership.

When the Lord visits us from on high and creates a mighty army of deeply spiritual men committed to the Word of God and global mission, the vast majority of women will rejoice over the leadership of these men and enter into a joyful part nership that upholds and honors the beautiful Biblical pattern of mature manhood and mature womanhood.

when men take primary responsibil ity for leadership and teaching in the church; and that mature manhood and womanhood are better preserved, better nur tured, more fulfilled and more fruitful in this church order than in any other.

God intends to equip and mobilize the saints through a company of spiritual men who take primary respon sibility for leadership and teaching in the church.

That last point is very important. For men and women who have a heart to minister—to save souls and heal broken lives and resist evil and meet needs-there are fields of oppor tunity that are simply endless. God intends for the entire church to be mobilized in ministry, male and female.

Biblical headshin for the husband is the divine calling to take primary respon sibility for Christlike, servant-leadership, protection and provision in the home. Biblical submission for the wife is the divine calling to honor and affirm her husband's leadership and help carry it through according to her gifts.

We are not sinless anymore. But we believe that recovery of mature manhood and woman hood is possible by the power of God's Spirit through faith in his promises and in obedience to his Word.

Conversely, if a woman's relation to man is very personal. then the way she offers guidance will need to be non-directive The clearest example here is the marriage relationship. The Apostle Peter speaks of a good wife's meek and tranquil spirit that can be very winsome to her husband (1 Peter 3:4). A wife who "comes on strong" with her advice will probably drive a husband into passive silence, or into active anger.

For example, prayer is certainly a God-appointed means women should use to get men to where God wants them to be.

This may sound paradoxical-that she strengthens the strength she receives, and that she refines and extends the leadership she looks for.

She is glad when he is not passive. She feels her self enhanced and honored and freed by his caring strength and servant-leadership.

"Receive" means that mature femininity feels natural and glad to accept the strength and leadership of worthy men.A mature woman is glad when a respectful, caring, upright man offers sensitive strength and provides a pattern of appropriate initiatives in their relationship. She does not want to reverse these roles.