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Negative advocates are people who totally agree with and support the HCPs, and make excuses for them or try to protect them from the negative consequences of their actions. Negative advocates are often emotionally hooked by the HCP’s intense charm or intense fear or anger against someone else…but if negative advocates become informed, they often disappear or turn on the HCP in anger at being misled.

[Annie] should also be taught to run away and get help if she felt in serious danger. Or to say nothing and protect her face. These are all choices that only she can make in the moment. But if Annie is trained in making these choices, it can help her feel better about herself and not get stuck believing there’s something wrong with her, a message that bullies often try to convey.

When people are under stress (anyone, not just high-conflict people), they don’t remember very well. In difficult situations, people are most likely in their right-brain defensiveness and their left-brain problem-solving memories may not be connected.

…connections grow between neurons when two experiences occur at the same time, such as being upset (using the right brain) and finding solutions (using the left brain). ‘Neurons that fire together, wire together.’

I sorta get wild and crazy on the weekends...