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It’s insane how much you learn about how people behave and process different situations once you learn a bit about what kind of attachment style they have. It makes so much sense. This book is kind of annoying in the way it’s been written but overall enjoyable.

Remember, an activated attachment system is not passionate love. Next time you date someone and find yourself feeling anxious, insecure, and obsessive—only to feel elated every once in a while— tell yourself this is most likely an activated attachment system and not love\ True love, in the evolutionary sense, means peace of mind. “Still waters run deep” is a good way of characterizing it.

It’s been really helpful so far

Every time you get mixed messages, your attachment system is activated and you become preoccupied with the relationship. But then he compliments you or makes a romantic gesture that gets your heart racing, and you tell yourself he's interested after all; you're elated. Unfortunately, the bliss is very short-lived.