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Ch. 4 - The Nag Paradox. The “just tell me what to do”, followed by the “don’t tell me what to do!”. The over-functioning, the expectations that the other will take care of it, the unmet emotional needs, lack of consideration and care, the normalization of imbalances in partnerships around domestic labor… the resolution isn’t splitting chores, it’s being a copilot.

Oooo this chapter was perfection!

Gender norms hurt everyone, and is the core contributor to the imbalance and inequity within our relationships, households, jobs, society, and beyond.
Caregiving is human, not gendered. Caregiving extends beyond the nuclear family, yet this is consistently stigmatized, and gendered. As they say
"be a villager", extend care to chosen family, neighbors, your community. And praise those you see doing the same.

Gender norms hurt everyone, and is the core contributor to the imbalance and inequity within our relationships, households, jobs, society, and beyond.

Caregiving is a human, not gendered. Caregiving extends beyond the nuclear family, yet this is consistently stigmatized, and gendered. As they say “be a villager”, extend care to chosen family, neighbors, your community. And praise those you see doing the same.

Ch. 2, Sitcom Syndrome: The Hidden Harms of Laughing it Off.

This chapter gave words to something I have felt, but didn’t know how to summarize. Many laugh off disrespectful, inconsiderate, bare minimum behavior because absent minded, forgetful, and dismissiveness (particularly among men) is a widely accepted norm behavior by society. It’s normalized, so it’s accepted. And accepted because it’s normalized.

Laura Danger, the woman that you are. Chapter 1 is so filled to the brim with goodness, it could be a book itself.

Diving head first into the broken, racist, misogynist, capitalist, and oppressive system that is patriarchy, Laura explores how these macro-impacts are felt acutely in our relationships and partnerships as a byproduct of how we are taught what’s ‘valuable’.

Domestic engineering is essential.

“If we want real change, we have to be willing to face the ways we have been conditioned to accept less; both in our personal lives and in the world at large. We must be willing to dig down to the roots of our problems, to recognize the interconnectedness of injustice, and to trace the lines back to ourselves.”