Status Updates From Polisicure: Etica, teoria e...

Ah, but where was this book's advice for self soothing when a partner does not answer the phone when I was dying of anxiety in a long distance relationship a decade ago??? Where was it then?????

It's an allosexual world and we're just living in it, I guess.

I legit wonder if I've talked to people who read this, because so much of it I have heard of prior.

My eyes fully bursting from my skull at seeing Internal Family Systems and Parts mentioned here, of all places. The ground I'm treading isn't short of footprints, itself.

"making sense of your own story"?! "coherent narrative of our past experiences"?!? But what if my autobiographical memory is catastrophically full of holes and I barely remember anything before 20....... what then...

Oh, I like that this book is like "we're gonna talk about healthy attachment to the self but it's not to exclude the healing power of securely attached relationships tho", I like that. Nice.

SECURE ATTACHMENT WITH SELF, let's gooooooooooooooo.

Oh, do polycules just have a really big bed, like a floor-spanning thing? Do they swap spooning partners per night or smth? Much to think abt......

Rituals and Routines, :sicko-yes:

Polysecure really did say 'be sure to gaze upon your partners in a loving, gay kinda way' which is adorable and I fully support but tough for autistic people and other eye-contact-averse dorks.

"Instead of spinning out into doubt and fear, being able to recall the ways your partners experience you as special, even irreplacable, can soothe the anxious mind and allow for more compersion to arise." Fuck this book kinda rocks.

Expressed Delight... maybe nothing ever worked because nobody ever even tried telling me how astoundingly good my shitass writings on books nobody cares about are :>

I solemnly swear not to apply this framework to my favourite novels and be annoying about my blorbos. Solemnly.

"Why do we want to be attachment figures for each other?" seems like one of those questions that would ALWAYS be a brick to the forehead, in any context. It took me out. Woah.

Reading this is kind of like waking up out of the slime in the Matrix, is the best way I can describe the revelatory experience. Oh my fucking god, it was SO fucking bad.

Do We Want To Be Attachment-Based Partners? You didn't exactly ask, so. It's good to ask.

Power dynamics.