Status Updates From Notas para John

“People who spend their entire lives together, he said, develop ways of living together - they provide each other space, they don't say everything they think at the moment they think it, they hold back from expressing themselves in ways that husbands and wives who lead more separate lives typically do not.”

“I said that was what truly broke our heart. To see how hard she was trying. We had tried to make her life easy and we hadn't. I don't mean "easy" in the obvious sense of good houses, good schools, etc. I mean easy in the sense that she would be free of both her own and our history. This seems to be one of the key promises you make when you adopt a child: you will take the child away from his or her history.”