Status Updates From Your Perfect Right: Asserti...

No individual can exist alone. None of us has the necessary knowledge, skills, or personal resources required to function with total independence in the world. We are interdependent, and our assertiveness must take into account and respect our neighbors’ needs as well as our own.

try to be yourself, be assertive, and take others’ needs, rights, and respect into account.

Although we suggest that you rehearse while you are developing your style and skills in assertiveness, we consider it very important that you develop a personal style — integrating assertiveness with your own unique way of dealing with people.

Remember to be assertive in your persistence; nagging can be aggressive!

recognize individual differences! Everybody has a unique view of the world; that’s part of the joy of the human experience. Don’t try to shape others into your image of them. Don’t assume there is only one way to be assertive in a given circumstance. Let people choose to be nonassertive if they wish.

And we’re in full support of the concept of “random kindness”: anonymous acts of kindness done without possibility of recognition or reward.

Assertiveness is not incompatible with kindness, thoughtfulness, compassion, empathy, or politeness. Someone with a truly assertive lifestyle is very concerned for others and their rights. We like the terms “empathic assertion” and “compassionate assertiveness,” which have been used to describe self-expression directed at the needs of another person. And we’re in full support of the concept of “random kindness”: ...