Status Updates From Die Kunst des Liebens

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- Love is the only way of knowledge which in the act of union answers the quest
- In the act of loving, giving myself, in the act of “penetrating” the other person, I find myself, I discover myself, I discover us both.
- “Know thyself”
- Rumi poem about polarity
- Freud focused too much on sex of the male
- Masculinity paralysis = extreme/force
- Feminine paralysis = masochism/possessiveness

- Responsibility is voluntary and it’s the response to the needs (expressed or not) of another human being.
- To be responsible is to be able and ready to respond
- Responsibility can deteriorate into domination & possessiveness which is why respect is needed
- Respect means the concern that the other person should grow and unfold as he is
- You must know a person to respect them & give them benefit of the doubt

- Giving implies to making the other person a giver and sharing in the joy of what you both brought to life
- Not only in love does giving mean receiving
- Those who are dependent, narcissistic, wish to exploit or hoard are afraid of giving themselves
- Care, responsibility, respect and knowledge are basic elements of love
- Love is the active concern for the life and the growth that which we love
- Jonah Eg.

- Those who have not developed beyond receptive, exploitative or hoarding, experience giving as deprivation or sacrificing
- For others, giving is the highest expression of potency where you experience strength, wealth, power and joy
- Giving your life without sacrificing it
- Giving joy, interest, understanding, knowledge, humour and sadness (alive)
- This enriches the other person and his own sense of aliveness

- Mature love is union under the condition of preserving one’s integrity and individuality.
- Love is an active power that unites us with others and overcomes the sense of isolation and separateness
- Love is an activity, not a passive affect, it’s “standing in”, not “falling for”
- Love is primarily giving, not receiving

- The answer to achieve interpersonal union is fusion with another person in love
- This union is achieved by giving & receiving that enhances one’s life (Mother/Foetus) biologically called Symbiotic union
- Psychic symbiotic union are 2 independent bodies but the sene kind of attachment exists psychologically
- Passive union is masochism & sadism, different forms of dependency without independent or integrity

Los libros aparecen para enseñar en el momento oportuno.

- Society creates a system of conformity to encourage obedience
- Most people aren’t aware of their need to conform
- People want to conform to a much higher degree than they are forced to conform
- “Individualism” to prove we are different
- Equality today means sameness rather than oneness
- Alcoholism, addiction, compulsive sex and suicide are modern western society symptoms of failed herd conformity

- Compared to other animals, humans are gifted with the awareness of life
- This awareness of being a separate entity means awareness of our own aloneness and separateness that is an “unbearable prison”
- The experience of separateness arouses anxiety, shame and guilt when there is no love
- Humans use others as a way to relieve this feeling (masochism/sadism = dependence)
- Humans also use sex, alcohol & drugs

Key concepts so far;
- People see the problem of love as “being loved” instead of the actual act of loving
- This means it’s almost seen as a commodity, seeing it as an object as opposed to a function/faculty
- In doing this, people are fixated on being an “attractive package” on the market and finding another “attractive package” on the market to be with
- Love is an art, just like living is