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Possibly insightful ideas around intimacy, attachment, and passion and how they connect to sexuality and intercourse.

A relationship cannot move to attachment without intimacy

Is porn addiction an intimacy/attachment issue? Houston raises this point and I do believe it’s plausible in some cases. However, I think it’s also plausible that it could be a dopamine issue. Reflective of how good it may feel.

I really liked the illustration of boundaries
The argument made here is abuse, abandonment, and attachment styles can play a role in sexual dysfunction, or sexual ‘confusion’

I will say I do like the idea of containment
A safe space to express oneself, perhaps with radical honesty without judgement or religiosity.

Wounds inflicted affect our ability to connect, our access to sexuality.

‘sexual confusion’ is a result of wounds? What about children who had good attachments with their parents? That rationale does not hold up.

Masculine and feminine existed in one space and was extracted. Intercourse entwines the two into one.

So everybody has masculine and feminine energies, we’re all on the same page about that yea? *checks notes*

Introduction of shame in sexuality stems from the fall and the separation of sexuality from spirituality.

The fall introduced passivity
(Men)
Fear of approaching women
Hiding of one’s self from women to keep from rejection, scaring women off

Houston: Sexuality is designed as a way for humans to experience God’s passionate love. Woman are designed to receive men with pleasure and birth other humans.

I question then, why is the anatomy of men’s pleasure aside of the penis, located where it is?