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Habit 11: Ruminating
- identify a problem, make a plan to deal with it, move on

Habit 12: Letting Radar Distract
- take information in and weave it into main content
- gardener: mistakes -> beginner’s mind -> asset to work

Habit 10: Too Much
- excessive self-monitoring can inhibit ability to be best self & depress energy
- colleagues may take reluctance to respond as me having something to hide
- feeling/identifying emotion is power. Reacting squanders it (161)
- ideal response: powerful, confident, measured, authentic, rooted in emotion but expressed logically
- concision
- focus on competence & reliability (not disclosure)

Habit 9: Minimizing
- making myself physically small
- deferential language “just” or “only” - implies I shouldn’t be taking up the space
- talk about achievements by noting team’s effort while also how I strengthened/supported team
- hold physical space
- be present
- don’t multitask

Habit 8: The Disease to Please
- doing more than your job can elicit resentment in others (“why is she doing my job?”)
- fear of being gossiped about can lead to wishy-washy behavior; need to accept pushback
- create a list of what tasks I did in a week - are those in my job description?

Habit 7: The Perfection Trap
- Senior leaders need a “big-picture” orientation and perfectionism keeps me focused on small details
- healthy perfectionists delegate, notice details but consider them in larger contexts, work hard but let go when something doesn’t work out as planned, great sense of humor

Habit 6: Putting Your Job Before Your Career
- loyalty to org can keep one stuck
- loyalty to team proves I’m a good manager but top leadership positions leverage promotion
- “Senior executives succeed by extending external relationships to serve larger org”

Habit 4: Building Rather than Leveraging Relationships
- Leverage: key career skill that can pay outsize rewards; always reciprocal; used for tactical & strategic goals; intentional
- help others who are poised to rise

Habit 5: Failing to Enlist Allies from Day One
- “who should I connect with to make this job a success?”
- Allies: support efforts
- Sponsors: higher-ups who assist